@Pseudowolf
Yup, thanks for the correction, us introverts often get misunderstood, introverts aren’t the same as misanthropes, but I can see why they often overlap and get confused with each other, especially from extroverts’ perspective.
@Chopsticks
Yes, I know that it’s a continuum and introvert/extrovert represent the theoretical extremes. But I think we are talking past each other. I asked about… let’s call it definition A. You said something like “people believe in definition B, but it’s actually definition C that’s true”.
And I don’t think I understand your definition C (the one you say is correct). Are you saying that an extrovert is a person who learns by doing and an introvert is a person who learns by observing and thinking?
I’m not sure I understand this part. Are you saying that the conventional meaning of the word introvert (the one I mentioned above) is wrong?
Conventional. The idea that “extrovert” means you’re a “people person social butterfly” beaming with bright, energetic, ok with everyone being your friend and “introvert” somehow means being a shut-in and avoiding, disliking, or being nervous about socializing.
They’re trendy societal slap definitions regarding 2 rare extremes that in reality are functionally meaningless concepts. They’re psychologically not even nouns nor ascribed to individuals. It’s a process of ‘defragging’ information, processing, and reflecting.
An Extroverted process of thinking might be more outgoing and less wearied by socializing because they process externally, by doing and getting involved, sorting the chaos. More often this can be seen with more forward-going personalities rushing in to get in the mix up. But it’s a horrendous stereotype to apply to individuals.
An Introverted process of thinking is more internal, reflective, maybe even quiet to ‘gather thoughts’. It can also take more information from past experiences and careful construction of building blocks to understand. As such, people found in solitude are more likely coming off as this sort of thing and avoiding the chaos… but again, horrible stereotype to apply broadly to an individual.
They exist on a scale and people can use both to some degree or have strong preferences, but they can also be very situational. I know social butterflies with almost no concept of a best friend who are in reality more introverted. I also know people who are very quiet, reserved, and nonsocial, but think very extroverted. In their element, each becomes a leader (2 examples I’m thinking of are actually sisters).
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Same with “shyness”, a rather terrible term, which is more about a level of comfort regarding wanting to do or interact with something, but unsure feelings or even fear causes a sense of withdrawn approach (until something of familiarity is integrated or observed). But it goes back to the individual still wanting to, which creates that sense of discomfort and social anxiety. People who don’t care aren’t affected.
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I tire easily when I’m interacting with specific types of people in specific environments, and I can tire easily alone. But I recharge in the presence of most those I hang out with; people who can compose themselves and process information with me. Yet I’m considered an affirmative leader among those who know me. But I can also get charged up in high energy social situations… it depends on the nuances (just as it would for most anybody else).
I can come off as “shy” or “introvert” when it comes to playing games for instance, but only if I’m unfamiliar with them because I don’t like the chaos. I learn through observation and processing building blocks. Because I process better alone in thought, I can’t learn by just rushing in and doing it (that’s a more extrovert process). But I have a scale and I use both, and it’s situational not universal.
Though almost nobody seems to know what introvert or extrovert actually deals with psychologically (or shyness for that matter). Has almost nothing to do with social preference or interaction, that’s just the common social label definitions people slapped on.
Yup, thanks for the correction, us introverts often get misunderstood, introverts aren’t the same as misanthropes, but I can see why they often overlap and get confused with each other, especially from extroverts’ perspective.
Yes, I know that it’s a continuum and introvert/extrovert represent the theoretical extremes. But I think we are talking past each other. I asked about… let’s call it definition A. You said something like “people believe in definition B, but it’s actually definition C that’s true”.
It’s inaccurate. Being introverted does not mean hating people, but tiring easily when interacting with people.
@Chopsticks
Edited because: reply to the newer comment
I guess I can see that.
Probably because, like I said, introvert doesn’t mean you are an asshole who hates people.
Being shown the middle finger…isn’t really a good feeling…